Men deal with a lot of social pressures regarding body image just as girls do, and never is this more stressful than in high school. We grow up with the idea that men are supposed to be big and strong, they’re supposed to be able to kick a door down and sweep a women off her feet and carry her home with no effort, that they want to be these big, burly manly men that make girls swoon with a passing glance. However, in reality, when we’re teenagers, we’re more like the teenage kids in practically every modern family comedy, like Steve from American Dad or Bobby Hill from King of the Hill.
What makes it worse for guys than gals is that guys are expected to not care about their body image, but they totally do, so they’re never allowed to release these feelings when they’re teenagers. It’s not “manly* to talk about one’s feelings, and it’s not “manly” to put effort into anything having to do with one’s own body image. So many of us go through this phase where we have acne, crappy hair, and are ridiculously scrawny and we won’t do anything about it because we feel that would be effeminate. Then we look at ourselves in the mirror and realize our “manly” selves look like scrawny teenage bums, and we don’t know what to do.
Then there’s porn, which in recent times has been giving guys unrealistic expectations as to how big their penis should be."
And then there was this one, two of the best quotes that perfectly sum up how I feel, being a man.
- Björk, on sexism in the electronic music genre (via hellodecatur)
So, here is my challenge for those who want to tell rape jokes:
Ask every woman in your life if she has been sexually assaulted. Ask her to tell you her story. This means your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, your grandma.
Once you have heard all their stories, go watch a movie with a rape scene in it. One you didn’t mind before. One you thought people were overly offended by.
Now tell me a joke."